Yoga + Therapy

While yoga can definitely benefit your physical fitness, we use yoga with therapy to access your mind.  Yoga helps us to quiet the mind, release negative energy, and connect more deeply with ourselves.  It creates ease and decreases our fight/flight tendencies.  It is the perfect addition to therapy, as these are often the goals of therapy.  We want to feel confident and calm despite the stressors we are facing or the trauma we have endured.  We want to not lash out at those we love because we are overwhelmed and at our wits end.  We want to be the best version of ourselves. Yoga helps us to access those deeper spaces and release what no longer serves us.


Yoga is a connection of mind, body, and spirit.  While it does include physical poses and stretches, it also includes breathwork.  Deep breathing is a common practice in the therapy room just like it is when we are comforting a child.  We tell our children “take a deep breath”, and notice that their emotional reaction calms just a tad.  In the therapy space we continue this deep breathing often with counting while breathing in and out.  With yoga, we can learn different types of breathing to help us move through our emotions.  


Dirgha Pranayama, also known as the three-part breath, is a yogic breathing technique that involves expanding and contracting the lungs in three stages: the abdomen, the ribs, and the chest. It improves lung capacity, calms the nervous system, reduces stress and anxiety, increases focus and concentration, and promotes relaxation and well-being. It is one of the breathing techniques we may practice to help you regulate your nervous system. 


We may also use yoga poses to help you feel more grounded or to release negative energy.  Often when we are in an anxious state, we can benefit from poses that help us to feel connected to the ground, to feel stability.  Yoga poses may include child’s pose, easy seated pose, or other poses that keep us lower to the ground.  They are generally easy on the body and can be practiced in the therapy office or at home. One of these sequences of poses to help you to feel less anxiety is found on Melissa’s YouTube page, addressing your Root Chakra.  You can view it here.


If you are interested in learning more about adding yoga to your therapy sessions with Melissa or signing up for a small group/individual yoga session that compliments your therapy sessions with someone else, contact Melissa today. 

Shedding & Shielding

Empaths are often drawn to water and the outdoors, so using visualizations involving these can be especially powerful. The visualizations below are to either “shed” the extra energy that does not belong or “shield” the empath from energy that does not belong.

Begin with an Energy Scan: Bring your awareness into your body and scan with your mind to see if there is anything that doesn’t feel like “you”, starting from the head down. For example you might feel a heaviness in your chest that doesn’t feel like yours, an image, or a color that doesn’t belong. Once you have found energy that doesn’t belong, investigate what it is and who it belongs to. Is it residual emotion from your own experience, or could it be something that actually belongs to someone else?

  1. Sequencing: Imagine a big, transformational bonfire in front of you. Notice where in your body the stuck/extra energy resides and invite it to begin to move out your hands by shaking your hands vigorously into the fire. Imagine the energy moving through your hands into the fire. Then, do the same thing with your feet, releasing any tension or others’ energy out the bottom of your feet by shaking your leg into the fire. If you like, stand up and shake your whole body to release everything into the fire. Notice how you feel after.

  2. Stickers: Notice the extra energy that does not belong to you as if they are grass burrs/stickers that have attached to you. Pick each one off, examine it, then imagine taking that energy into your hand, wrapping it in love/power from God, then sending back to the person or to God.

  3. Sacred Container: In this practice you will practice placing loved ones in a Sacred Container to be attended to by God. Imagine a safe, healing calm environment to come into focus (nature, altar, etc.) noticing the healing energy that surrounds it from God. When you feel ready, hand over the person and/or their energy to that Sacred Container, allowing God to hold them instead of you. Next say “I hand this over to you” and allow the Sacred Container to move off in the distance.

  4. Shielding: Sometimes empaths may struggle with shielding themselves from the energy from others, especially those who they care about. Shielding can help by developing a barrier between the empath and others; this might be imagining a large bubble, armor, a glass wall, or some other type of shield to allow the empath to continue to communicate with others yet allow extra emotions and energy to bounce off the barrier.

~Melissa McGee, MA, LPC-S

Sources: Sweigh Emily Spilkin, Empath Mastery, www.thresholdshealing.com

Dr. Judith Orloff, www.drjudithorloff.com

Are you an Empath?

In my practice lately, I am finding many of my clients are empaths. As a fellow empath, I understand the care and safety they need in order to identify their empathic qualities and learn how to balance using their gifts without overspending themselves.

So, what is an empath? Dr. Judith Orloff defines empaths as highly sensitive people who feel everything and use intuition as the filter to experience their world. I often begin to suspect a client is an empath when they feel their emotions deeply, seem to carry excess emotions including the emotions of others, and often feel drained in their life.

First, we begin with Dr. Orloff’s Quiz:

1. Have I been labeled as “overly sensitive,” shy, or introverted?

2. Do I frequently get overwhelmed or anxious?

3. Do arguments or yelling make me ill?

4. Do I often feel like I don’t fit in?

5. Am I drained by crowds and need alone time to revive myself?

6. Am I over stimulated by noise, odors, or non-stop talkers?

7. Do I have chemical sensitivities or can’t tolerate scratchy clothes?

8. Do I prefer taking my own car places so I can leave early if I need to?

9. Do I overeat to cope with stress?

10. Am I afraid of becoming suffocated by intimate relationships?

11. Do I startle easily?

12. Do I react strongly to caffeine or medications?

13. Do I have a low pain threshold?

14. Do I tend to socially isolate?

15. Do I absorb other people’s stress, emotions, or symptoms?

16. Am I overwhelmed by multitasking and prefer doing one thing at a time?

17. Do I replenish myself in nature?

18. Do I need a long time to recuperate after being with difficult people or energy vampires?

19. Do I feel better in small cities or the country than large cities?

20. Do I prefer one-to-one interactions or small groups rather than large gatherings?

Answering yes:

1-5 questions = partial empath

6-10 = moderate empath tendencies

11-15 = strong empath tendencies

More than 15 = full empath

Typically empaths actually feel the emotions of others and may even experience the physical pain of others. Are you more sensitive, intuitive, and creative? Do you become overwhelmed, leading to exhaustion or overstimulation? More to come on strategies to shield and shed that energy!

~Melissa McGee, MA, LPC-S

Source: https://drjudithorloff.com/

Wait time

In my sessions this week I’ve noticed using the phrase “wait time” a couple times. I’m pretty sure I got the phrase from my time in education, “give the student wait time”, to allow time to process and answer. How does that work in your life? Maybe your significant other needs a pause, or “wait time” before answering your questions. Or maybe you need “wait time” before addressing an issue.
Our world moves at such a fast pace and we are often struggling to juggle all the stress. Sometimes we feel forced to answer right away or make the decision. But what if we gave ourselves “wait time”? What if we took the time to take a breath, check in with ourselves, see what our bodies and emotions are telling us? Would that change our answers? And if we allowed others to do the same, would we communicate in healthier and more authentic ways?

Whether the “wait time” is a few minutes or a few days, consider the possibilities…